Recently I ran into a tête-à-tête with an old and dear friend and the topic of it was ‘Men do cry’. Because it already says that ‘Men do Cry’, so I am not going to debate on it, rather I will try to broach the topic with acceptance of the fact that Men do cry( I know it sounds sissy) and how our conversation went.
We do agree that Men are physically different from Women, but have we ever fueled our thoughts to think whether this difference has got any other dimension. Well, in my opinion, Men differ from Women in terms of mental and emotional quotient as well. While I will not discuss how they differ mentally (may be I will write one more post on it), I will definitely talk about the latter. A well defined definition of EQ I got over internet says,” Emotional Intelligence (EI) describes the ability, capacity, skill or, in the case of the trait EI model, a self-perceived ability, to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups”. So, it all comes down to managing and controlling one’s emotion and that is where Men differ from women.
Why do Men cry? Do they cry when their podgy Boss shouts on them? NO!! Do they cry when an impudent lout makes fun of them? NO!! Did they cry when they were fresh into their alma-mater and were bullied by their sophomores? NO!! Did they cry when chided by their mothers when they entered their adolescence? No!! Did they cry when caned by burly teachers for not completing the home assignment? No!! I reckon, if we interchange Men with Women in above sentences, the answer to all the above questions will be an affirmative. So, when do Men cry? They cry when someone endearing, someone they care for the most, someone without whom life appears incomplete and without any reason, someone they have planned their future with hurts them. Its not infliction of a physical pain, rather it is ardent passion, melodrama, sentiments or whatever you want to term it.
But why are Men evasive about expressing their deep sentiments in public. This is actually where we two differed in opinion. While he thinks that Men hide their crying because that is what we have been taught since childhood, my opinion here is that Men conceal their tears because it leaves imprints of their feebleness, it challenges their masculinity, it makes them vulnerable. What do you think? Why do Men cry and should they hide it? Also, Women, on the other hand are too expressive. Why? Go!
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